Self acceptance and Letting go of Anxiety.

How to Let Go of Anxiety, Fear and Worry

As I have spoken about previously, dealing with anxiety is a subject very close to my heart. Having experienced debilitating anxiety in my life, I prioritise working hard to keep mentally healthy and as a result have discovered a myriad of techniques to help manage my anxiety, fear and worry.

We ALL will have moments of anxiety, fear and worry in our lives. These are all very normal, human emotions. However, problems occur when these emotions start to affect our daily lives, our ability to be content, our jobs, relationships and our sleep patterns.

Having dealt with these emotions first hand I hope to, in this blog, give you ideas and solutions for when you are struggling with anxiety and fear that is becoming a burden to your life.

Accept Yourself

My first piece of advice is to learn to love and accept yourself. Quite often many of the things we experience in life, that we would rather not, relate back to the negative thoughts we have previously fed ourselves. We need to remind ourselves that in the most part, we have control over what we think and how we react, we therefore have control over how we feel. Often, unwanted situations we find ourselves in are made worse by the lack of acceptance and confidence we have of ourselves to deal with them effectively.

Take time out every day to focus on self-worth, self-belief and self-love. Do not believe everything your anxiety tells you. A great way of removing fear and worry is to fully accept who you are. Love who you are. Be fully aware of the person you are. The things that make you smile and the things that don’t. Appreciate everything you are, but also accept that not everyone will feel the same. That is ok. You need to believe that you are worthy and loved, and the right people will see that.

Accepting yourself is one of the most liberating things you can do. However, do not be fooled, it doesn’t just happen overnight. You need to change and re wire your thoughts. Constantly use your inner voice to tell yourself you are loved and accepted. Use daily affirmations to remind and embed to yourself that you are good enough exactly how you are. Over time, these repetitive actions will work and you will fully accept who you are without fear being able to control you with ‘Will they like me?’ ‘Do I fit in?’ ‘Am I good enough?’

Through daily practice and affirmations, you are trusting yourself to know that you can handle whatever life throws at you and you are worthy.

Repeat: ‘I love and accept myself.’

Hopefully by doing this and fully accepting who you are, you will be able to deal with unwanted situations more effectively without letting your fear dictate your reactions.

Getting Rid of Negativity

The second thing I would advise you doing is releasing anything that impacts your life negatively. Decide, is it something that you can confront and deal with? Often we have things we know are making us unhappy or causing worry, however we let them fester, allowing the fear control us. The first thing to do, to live a calmer life, is to acknowledge anything that is weighing you down, creating negative energy in your life and causing anxiety and deal with it; then you can let it go. Release that feeling of being anxiety you will then take your control back from the fear.

This could be a relationship, friendship, career anything. It could be negative emotions you have over yourself. This is the time to walk away from anything that impacts negatively on your wellbeing, it is your time to decide if there is something that is weighing you down how you can deal with it without fear holding you back or, as said previously dictating your reactions. Fear can make our reactions to things we find unpleasant, large, angry or ineffective. When fear isn’t in control you will manage any confrontation, change and situations with clarity and calmness.

Find your Peace

Finally, find something that helps you manage your emotions, gives you space and time out from the busy lives we lead. It is important to find something that you consider your safe space. Where you can go when emotions get too heavy, when fear begins to creep in. Whatever this is, it is my advice that you do this action daily, whether your emotions have started to engulf you or not. By this daily action you will be keeping your worry monster in check and also be completely able to use the techniques if and when you need to. To keep track of your emotions and become more of an attracting force for what you want, you need to establish a daily practice. I call my daily practice ‘My Zen Time’ but you can call it whatever works for you. This practice can be anything that works for YOU, it could be going for a walk in nature, time out for meditation, yoga, or just simply sitting quietly. Whatever you do that works for you, make this your daily practice. It does not need to take hours, it could simply be 10 minutes, however you need to commit to it and practice daily. This is the way you will be able to gain full control over your emotions.’ To really become aligned with who you truly are and want to be, you need to commit to a daily practice of self-care and a way of controlling your thoughts.

You will, in time start to see the positive effects of committing to a daily practice for self-acceptance. You will begin experiencing a greater sense of calm and confidence and this will help you respond and deal with whatever life throws at you. Trust that is possible to live a life free from anxiety, worry and fear.

Remember if you ever feel that it’s all too much, never be afraid to seek help.